WHAT DO YOU PUT UP WITH | EPISODE 3

Such a long due video! SORRY! I can’t tell you how chuffed I was to have people chasing me on emails, Instagram and YouTube for this next episode! You guys are like super super stars, you don’t even know it.

I had to ask myself why I was delaying this. You know when you constantly have excuses not to do something, it’s hanging there in bold on your to-do list but you quietly dismiss it until it haunts you again, come the next morning. I had to have this mini intervention with myself: Why are you not filming this video?

And I realised that I was simply scared. I say simply because I refuse to beat myself about this, fear is okay. If I managed to unconsciously disguise this fear from myself, I definitely owe myself some extra TLC. It would have made sense to beat myself about it, to compare myself to other people, to be frustrated and angry with myself, but how would it solve anything? If I’m hiding these things from myself, like a child gets shameful when he wets the bed, getting angry won’t help. If anything, I need to understand why I keep these things from myself. Where’s the trust, fluff?!

Remember – we’re treating ourselves like our own best friend from now on (if you’re lost here, you have some YouTube catch up to do!)

The irony here, is that this next decluterring episode was about what other people think. And yet, here I am, frozen by the fear of being judged. Leashed much? Hmm I think so.

I like to think that I’m very consistent. The Freddie you see online is very much the Freddie you’d meet in real life. I couldn’t have it any other way; I’m a terrible liar. The boy says I have the worst poker face ever. But when people know so little about you, it’s hard not to fear to be misunderstood. There are so many ways you could come across, and none of them might come near who you are and what you are really about. That being said, what’s the solution? Remain silent, censored and leashed? What a sad life we’d be living.

We’re all creative entities, and if you think you’re not, you haven’t dug enough my love, because you truly are a rich and creative person. We’re all this unique and oh so complex cocktails of personalities, it would be impossible to appeal to everyone. I wouldn’t want to be everyone’s cup of tea – sod that!

So why do we care so much about what others think? Actually, let me ask you, how much do we know about what others think??? What exactly are we doing to ourselves when we let these fears stopping us?

We’re only harming ourselves, and possibly others (yes, believe it!!!)

So regarding this fear I had about being too exposed, I gave myself a cuddle and published the video this morning. SHE Unleashed is what I’m about and what I want to grow on the long term. I really want to empower us and to turn us into the superheroes we already are deep inside.

As Marie Forleo said,

You were born to create and contribute! Don’t let the noise of the world drown out the work your soul came here to do.
Marie Forleo

Hope you enjoy this vid! If you do, please share it with your friends if you think they might enjoy it too!

The next episode is coming next week – no jokes!

Unleashed smooches coming your way,

Freddie x

By Freddie

Paris-born, London-based All smiles sass bag, personal stylist, confidence consultant & Top UK fashion blogger. I help women claim their confidence and power back through workshops and videos. Frankie's not my name.

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