As a blogger, I get a lot of exposure on social media and your daily positive comments have had a strong impact on my confidence. I’m lucky like that, because of my following I have this constant access to confidence boosting and happiness inducing words I can go back to every time I feel low. We’re all valid and beautiful, this is a message I constantly hammer during my SHE Unleashed Workshops, but for some of us it’s harder to remember it, because we’re not often reminded of it!

That’s the reason I’m so proud to be part of the Amazon Fashion EU project #SaySomethingNice along with the uber cool Susie Bubble, Gala Gonzalez, Camille Charrière, Clémentine Desseaux, Hana Tajima, Masha Sedgwick, Samar Seraqui, Ana Pizarro, and Sara Joleen. With this campaign, we all aim to help fashion and social media become a place that encourages women to spread compliments instead of judgments. But I’m telling you all about it in this video, so check it out 😉

I remember back when I was a personal stylist, I worked with many women who were shopping and dressing themselves with the sole purpose of being perceived as this idea they had of a cool and swanky woman. I definitely went there, and spent quite a lot of time in that space until a few years ago, it’s sometimes so much easier to hide ourselves than to expose our true selves to the world, for it to judge. This shows how much what others think, their judgment, have an impact on the way we dress. And more.

I’m definitely guilty of judging people, we all are. In these days and age of social media where we’re constantly invited, and how great is that, to share our opinions and suggestions about pretty much everything, we tend to forget that what we say can influence people, and sometimes a lot! We’re constantly on our phones, if you’re anything like me you can easily get caught scrolling through Instagram in the middle of the night with your eyes half shut. This is also when my mind is at its grumpiest state and I can have thoughts I’m not proud of. But although it’s one thing to have a negative thought, it’s another to take time out of your precious day to share and spread this negativity. I’ll never quite understand the reasoning behind nasty comments. How is the person receiving it supposed to feel? How constructive are negative comments? What’s their point really? And it also goes to show you the level of selfishness social media has facilitated: we want our ideas, our style accepted, but do we really return the favour ?

I always mention during my workshops that another way to confidence is to watch your chain of thoughts. I’ve worked a lot on mine, when I was much more insecure and miserable, I would be really criticising of women around me. By focusing on people’s negatives, it becomes easier to accept all these flaws you think pour right out of your pores like the River Seine. But by accepting others’ differences, you definitely become more lenient towards yours and this feeling of validation comes to blossom. You are an individual, you are unique, there’s only one of you. You can’t be bad at that! So accepting others’ unique style is a way to give credit to yours, to give it its identity and to recognize its uniqueness.

I absolutely love to comment on Instagram, I love to let people know I love what they do, what they wear or what they’re about; I’m much more the lazy emoji speaker type, but when I think of how little it takes me to share a bit of love, I’m almost ashamed that I don’t do it more often.

So with this video, I pledge to #SaySomethingNice whenever I can, to these lovely ladies I come across everyday, be it on social media or real life. Let’s start this movement for women everywhere to stop judging and start complimenting! Are you in?

Also check out this compilation of the cool gang aforementioned and I’s pledges

Lots of love,
Freddie x

By Freddie

Paris-born, London-based All smiles sass bag, personal stylist, confidence consultant & Top UK fashion blogger. I help women claim their confidence and power back through workshops and videos. Frankie's not my name.

Comments (4)
  1. Simi June 24, 2016 at 8:09 am

    Freddie, I’m such an emoji girl myself, constantly commenting, and I also respond to each comment (usually with the lazy emoji) on my Instagram too! What a lovely post X

  2. Reggie. June 27, 2016 at 6:40 pm

    I’m glad this came up. I’m absolutely in on positivity and compliments.
    We never can tell whom our positive words can change. Some people are out their waiting on compliments and acceptance to bloom therefore I pledge to say something very nice. Cheers to great impact!
    How’s baby bump doing?

  3. Dani July 3, 2016 at 4:19 am

    Love this idea. Spread the Love! Keep up the good work ladies. Humanity needs it!

  4. Debs July 30, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    Love this and love you!

    Debs x

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