BEFORE I AM A WOMAN, BEFORE I AM BLACK, I AM FREDDIE

This was a tricky one. Stepping into so much truth felt daunting.

God I dreaded the publication of this video, but like most things I get nervous about, it turned out to be liberating, freeing. You’ll see me writing more on here, enough with the fashion fluff, these are the sods I want to use to grow, and to help anyone who can relate to grow with me too.

I was telling you in my last update that I felt like a Brit who just happened to have a French accent. Truth is, first i’m not a fan of my accent, and if it wasn’t for people telling me it was cute, I would hate it even more. I don’t feel French, this accent is almost like a burden and it reminds me of the struggle it was to try to fit.

When StyleLikeU asked me to take part in the first episode of their first international edition, I was overwhelmed with flattery and pride.

But how could I possibly have anything interesting to say? Wait. People keep telling me that I come across so sure of myself and confident. Are you joking?! I’m slowly claiming power over my person back, I am finally realizing that I am what’s underneath and not these layers of bullshit people obsessed with boxes have tried to pin on me. (Freddie. Unleashed)

I didn’t grow up French, I became French when I crossed the UK border with my thick Parisian twang. But growing up black in France (and i’m sure in lots of other places) will tie your tongue so tight you forget you even have a voice to start with. Talking about racism is so taboo in France. And I guess everywhere. I don’t understand why some white people get so personally offended when you start on the subject. Just look at the comments section of the Guardian Facebook page: every time it is about racism, a bunch of white people are quick to claim that it is talking about races that makes things worse.

Some say they are colorblind. Being colorblind is nothing more than white privilege. I am not colorblind, and to be fair, no one needs to be colorblind. The problem is not to see colours, the problem is to set a hierarchy within them. Black is not a dirty word, the same way that white isn’t.

I was telling you briefly about the horrific experience I had with my ex French close friends, I remember one of them telling me in our last conversations that I was obsessed with racism and that it didn’t exist anymore (this is partly why I was so scared of this video coming out, odd what someone who is no longer a friend can do to you right?) Trust me, I barely talk about racism. I know better, I am French. I try to mingle and disappear in the crowd (my bright style came to me after I moved to London, if you’re wondering), but one mention of discrimination and you become a problem. That’s why I was so nervous about this video, I didn’t want to come across needy, moany, ungrateful (don’t ask me for what, but I’ve been told many times than necessary that if it hadn’t been for France I would have died of starvation already) I’m not used to step in so much truth.

I haven’t wished to visit France again since some of my bridesmaids, including my witness, tried to sabotage my wedding and wrote to Tom on the first day of our honeymoon, as we landed in Bali, to tell him he had no clue about the woman he had just married. No, it is the contrary. I’ve never been myself more than since I left Paris 5 years ago. I left its negativity, I left its narrow mind and bloomed and bloomed like a plant on GMO. I am in my truth, I probably saw these girls 6-7 times in these past 5 years, we used to be miserable together, share our miserable love stories together, our miserable work lives together. We used to keep each other in our misery, but then I stepped out and grew, embarked on a life I designed for myself with great friends and a great life partner and things went tits up. I no longer fitted with them, and what do you do to misfits? Especially misfits with a large social following with countless amazingly positive and supportive comments? You bully them, you want to see the end of them. The fact that they told me “you’ve changed, you forgot where you come from and who your real friends are” still baffles me today, and the fact that it was the reason of their anger and why they put so much effort into trying to ruin day 2 of our wedding along with our honeymoon?! Speechless.

Who was I expected to be after almost 5 years?! What’s the point of so much work?! Remaining the same person?! Unfortunately, I have little time for that. Allow me to reintroduce myself: Hi, I’m Freddie.

You don’t get to pick and choose, I come as whole. The girl who left Paris would have been friend with anyone who would have deemed her worthy of their friendship. That’s what my former gang was made of: girls who took an insecure and desperate girl under their wing, someone else to be frustrated and miserable with. That’s why I hammer that message everywhere: WATCH who you surround yourself with. I have the best friends in the world now, and grew into an adult I love beyond everything. I do love myself, I’m not ashamed to say it. But I had to surround myself with inspiring people to get there.

I was so nervous to receive my wedding photos, because they were on there along with my other bridesmaids. But now I look at these photos smiling: on one single shot you have my insecure and sad past, the beautiful present, and the promising future. Watch me grow. And if you’re not keen on this show, look away cause nothing is going to stop me mama 🙂

In this video, I briefly explained what it was to grow up black in Paris. Until the age of 10, I was unaware of the limits people will attribute to my origins, to the tone of my skin. Until the age of 10 I thought I could be anything, do anything but then I quickly stepped out of this mindset and made myself sick to my stomach imagining all the physical and economical changes I would have to make to even begin to dream slightly bigger. I was 11 the first time I wished I was dead, I remember trying to drown myself in my parents’ bath, only to learn soon that your body, unlike you, will fight such a situation. I never thought I’d live past 18, no way would I bear life for so long. I was black, therefore I wasn’t smart, I was ugly. I remember telling everyone I wanted to be a neurosurgeon, I can’t even bear the sight of blood, but that would prove them I was smart – wouldn’t it? I’d ask my mum for blonde braids mixed with the black ones, just so I could flaunt blonde strands like my friends. I also remember pretending I was West Indian, and not African. Because if you’re from the French West Indies, you’re not the child of an immigrant. You’re almost just as French, not quite at all, but closer. Immigrant, this dirty word we save for non-white people. A white person moving country is an expat. I was the daughter of dirty immigrants.

And another note, I’m on a flight from Geneva where I bought the latest French magazines. And the same thing again happens as I look through the French Glamour (haven’t picked up the others yet): not a sight of a black girl. No Asian girl, no mixed-race girl, only white girls. I won’t bother reading it, I’ll wait till I land in London and grab a copy of a local magazine where we all are represented. You know what’s funny? I hear that I’m on today’s Metro UK cover…

I feel so much lighter since this video came out. I was already feeling valid, smart and beautiful. But this video is a farewell to my Frenchness, and an ode to my blackness.

Allow me to introduce myself AGAIN: HI, I AM FREDDIE.

Hope you enjoy it!

Freddie x

By Freddie

Paris-born, London-based All smiles sass bag, personal stylist, confidence consultant & Top UK fashion blogger. I help women claim their confidence and power back through workshops and videos. Frankie's not my name.

Comments (38)
  1. Akosua March 26, 2016 at 3:14 pm

    It pains me to read what you have been through, even as recently as your wedding, and so it brings me so much joy to see you claim all of yourself. Thank you for sharing, you are truly an inspiration.

  2. Christelle March 26, 2016 at 4:52 pm

    MAGNIFIQUE! I am all teary as a French black woman based in London, I relate to this strongly. Your ode to the blackness is on point. I am sorry to read you had to experience so called friends attempting sabotaging the day 2 of your wedding and your honeymoon, I experienced that too unfortunately.
    I wish you all the best with the move in Geneva.
    La bise

  3. Tanaka March 26, 2016 at 5:57 pm

    Omg Freddie – this post. I love how raw and open you are. For the first time, I teally understand that saying “by being yourself you give others permission to be themselves too.” I feel so free after reading this post. I have a habit of sharing raw posts & hiding in a hole afterwards but after reading this I won’t be doing that! I feel liberated. Your story is so heartbreaking and beautiful all at once. I can relate to a lot of it. I am so so pleased for you, that you have broken through & come so far. You are such a beautiful person, with the most amazing infectious smile! I can’t wait to see what the next chapter of your life holds. I’m so grateful to feel I have a kindred spirit somewhere – I’m going to stop my chameleon lifestyle & embrace all of me, all the different me’s!

    • Freddie March 27, 2016 at 8:27 pm

      OMG I wanted to hide in a hold after I shot the video, and after I wrote this post too! We are kindred spirits ahaha! But your comment encourages me even more, love how we encourage each other ahah! Thank you very much for your lovely words, and good luck with your unleashing hehe xxx

  4. zoe March 26, 2016 at 7:28 pm

    Beautifully written and well expressed. It’s nice to meet you, Freddie.

  5. Yolanda March 28, 2016 at 6:05 am

    Hi Freddie,
    I love your rawness in this… We all go through this in our respective countries. I’m South African and can fully relate to what you just wrote. I love your spirit and I always feel your posts give me permission to unleash who I really am… love you…

  6. Becky March 28, 2016 at 11:39 am

    this post was so brave and re-assuring! I’ve dealt with frenemies in my personal life and a few times at work. It hurt a lot. People’s insecurities will make them do terrible things. Ignore them and grow. We all love what you’re doing x

  7. Chloe Rolland March 28, 2016 at 8:38 pm

    Very beautifully said. I of course do not know you but find so many similarities. I am a mixed race French girl who moved to the UK 9 years ago. The French do not understand why on earth I would want to leave – surely not for the mediocre education, healthcare and cuisine of the UK ? What I try to explain to them is that I have never felt so free. I can listen to all music genres without feeling judged. I can wear whatever I’d like unafraid of standing out. I sport an afro, my natural texture, the same hair I got teased for in school and which is is now celebrated. I feel for you and the unbelievable cruelty of your so-called friends. I will hasten to add I love France but I prefer it from accross the channel, celebrating my freedom of expression. Lots of love – my friend Winnie and I have been fans for a while.

  8. Asli March 29, 2016 at 11:25 am

    MERCI.
    J’aime tellement la vidĂ©o et encore plus l’article. Ce qui le rend magnifique c’est que tu es tout simplement toi. Et j’admire tellement ça!

    Cela me fait tellement du bien que tu aies mis des mots sur mes Ă©motions. Pendant longtemps j’ai cru que je faisais une obsession sur ma couleur de peau et le racisme, je n’ose mĂŞme pas en parler comme je le voudrais Ă  mes propres amies pcq je sais qu’elles ne comprendront pas.
    J’ai l’impression que je vais exploser pcq je ne suis pas moi et de ce fait j’ai envie de m’expatrier. Tout recommencer pcq je suis fatiguĂ©e d’avoir Ă  justifier mon identitĂ©. Je suis française ET fille d’immigrĂ© et c’est très bien comme ça.
    Encore merci ! Je te souhaite que le meilleur !

  9. Jade March 29, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    I am so happy you made the video, I was taken aback by your gorgeous accent, frankness, and beauty. I LOVE how positive you are, even when talking about discrimination that you’ve experienced. You are a breath of fresh air, and I am a brand new fan. I can’t wait to see what you do next, I get the feeling I will learn many lessons from you. Thank you for speaking up! Keep being you X

  10. Nomshado Michelle March 29, 2016 at 7:21 pm

    In my heart there is an ache but also hope. Freddie, you voiced some things which I have never been able to get out or openly spoken to anybody. Your story is like a mirror of my own upbringing. Like you I was confronted and still am confronted by questions I have never questioned myself (I got asked about the brown water thing too, your answer was so much better than mine lol) and like you sometimes I forget that I am black (its such a crazy thought) until I pass a mirror or a situation reminds me of it. I feel like I am so behind everybody else yet I work the hardest. In life it feels like everybody else was given a head start.
    I am constantly having to make decisions between honoring my heritage (I am South African) and my citizenship (British). Even dating interracially and having to explain why I am attracted to who I am attracted to. Being black and being a woman are things I can never change or nor a decision I took part in, but it is an unmistakable part of who I am along with being soooo much more.
    At the end of writing this there is more hope, than pain. Freddie, you give me hope.
    I would love to meet you, we share so much I feel like I already know you. Thank you for this video x

  11. Mafa mafa (IG) March 30, 2016 at 10:51 am

    It is 5:22 …AM…
    Just read your post and it felt weird … Because my sister and i just started a correspondance ( she is in Paris and Meunier MontrĂ©al) and What you share is basically the core of our last letters. Mine was about the fact that to survive growing as a black, very black ( how can you be very black?) girl i had to unleashed my inner Grace Jones ( the first black woman i saw on tv not trying to be something else… As i perceived it at that time) and my sister’s theme was: sois forte et tais toi!
    And yes it took me to leave Paris to realised i could be me and frankly to discover i could just do/be what i want
    I mean i have been living since 2004 and i had been in conseil d administration ( forgot the words in engish’) local news, once they paid me to talk about me ! Not something i learn ( i am a psychologist) just me! So lately with the sis among out sadness about violence, war, terrorism and our fav theme as fashion, hair ( naturelle just recently) and books… We share expĂ©rience about being a woman … A black woman and racism ( le racisme ordinaire) …glad you share! Cause i followed first your feed in IG for your Hair and style and kept asking myself why i was so fond of you and your post ! Now i know! Not for the sad shared experience but for the unleashing character … Damned i respect you ! So you mind ? I have to share your post!

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  13. Blasksweetyclothes March 31, 2016 at 6:33 pm

    Hello Freddie
    I just read your ode and it is touching me at the bottom of my heart !As a french black girl i know what it is to grow up with people who are racist who always think you are a dumb , you will never succeed and when he suddenly comes to you , they are jealous and want you to fail .But what they don’t understand is that it doesn’t suddently comes you works for that it’s you who achieve this and it’s your moment of glory! I always have two quotation in mind which gives me fierce one from Michael Jackson” I am not going to past my life to be a color ” and the second is from NAS “I know ,i can,be what i wanna be if i work hard for this i will be where i wanna be” .
    I am proud to be black i like all in me and i know that they have a lot to say about racism in general and more preciasely french racism but stay faithfull to who you are and don’t be ashamed to be french that’s made who you are now !

    Keep on smilling .

    Bisous ,bisous.

    Mouiba alias Blacksweetyclothes.

  14. Ibibiofame March 31, 2016 at 8:21 pm

    Heilige kuh!!! I was just discussing you on Instagram with an online friend who got inspired by your post. Now I feel so mean for weirding out on your accent the first time I heard you talk. I don’t even know you personally but I strongly believe you are a great black woman.
    I have always hated buying magazines that doesn’t celebrate every skin tone so I stopped buying them a long time ago.
    You def inspire me to do better. I grew up in Nigeria so didn’t have any racial discrimination. Living in Nigeria for that long gave me the chance to not let anyone go all racial on me when I started visiting/ moved to Europe. We have the power to control how people treat us.
    I am sorry you went thru all that crap but bloody glad you rose above it all

  15. Bronwyn April 4, 2016 at 8:59 pm

    This woman, she’s got it!

    Loved the read, thanks Freddie 🙂

  16. Antoinette April 5, 2016 at 10:35 pm

    Hi Freddie,
    I hardly ever comment on public posts but I felt compelled to tell you that what you have been through is a global problem and is extremely common place. I’m so pleased that you were brave enough to open up about these issues and show other black women and people of colour that they are not alone, and they can rise above dehumanizing rhetoric. I shared your story with family and friends and we were all deeply affected by it. I’m Jamaican, but I’m also American and I know your issues and feel your pain. Our experiences may be different, but there are over arching similarities that stem from the root of white privilege and the residual effects of colonialism. You are so beautiful and I’m insanely happy that you were able to recognize this FACT as early as you did. Continue to use your platform to shine and be unapologetically black, smart, outspoken, inspiring, and this will inspire other black women to love themselves. It will also serve as a teaching tool to many white folks who are open to understanding our issues, their privilege, and that we don’t seek to make them uncomfortable by speaking about our lived realities. Sad about your wedding drama, but happy you were able to toss the toxicity off your boat before setting sail on new and exciting adventures. How horrible it would have been if they had removed their masks later! Yes to early revelations:-) I know this is a long comment, but I just wanted to tell you how I felt. Anyhow, you’ll have my email, if you’re ever in Arizona, lets get together!

  17. Keira April 6, 2016 at 3:01 pm

    Wow! This is really moving Freddie.
    As a white person I have no idea of the struggles but it’s great to read and hear inspirational stories to show the world what it’s like and help the ignorant understand.
    Have an amazing time in Genova and always be you x

  18. Isha April 7, 2016 at 1:13 am

    Love your work and persona . You give me and other girls inspiration to be are selves. I love the honesty in this post . Showing no matter what they are bad minded people but that should not stop you from being yourself. Thank you for being you.

  19. Hannah Lewsey April 12, 2016 at 11:12 am

    I love this post and video, it seems, just like many other videos by StyleLikeU, you revealed something about me. Each time a watch a video I learn a little about myself.
    Also, where did you get your dungarees I LOVE THEM!

  20. Dezzie Dimbitsara April 18, 2016 at 12:35 am

    Hi Freddie,

    I just watched the video and I could cry… I was born in Madagascar, raised in France (in the F%$ng middle of nowhere in the countryside). I lived abroad for 10 years and I can relate to the idea of “getting to be French somewhere else” except in France where it’s not handed to you. I am now back living in Paris and I have to say… I’m finding it extremely hard (though easier somehow that living in Ireland where the lack of diversity was astonishing). I’m at the very beginning of my personal awakening as a French, Black woman (I haven’t been able to put myself first). Freddie, we need you here… are you planning anything for Paris anytime soon? Lots of love from a perfect stranger.

  21. Shanni April 23, 2016 at 10:53 pm

    You are Amazing, every bit of you. It a sad thing that people can be so awful, that part about your wedding cut me to my core, it was made wost when I thought of myself in that position with the person I treasure the most. No one should have to face that before one of the happiest days of there life. Arghh!!! However I am happy to meet this you, the girl behind the big smile. Looking forwards to your continued growth x

  22. Sissi June 22, 2016 at 11:28 am

    Bonjour Freddie,

    Je t’Ă©cris en français car cela me vient plus naturellement que l’anglais. Je tenais Ă  te remercier pour ce post qui est d’une très grande justesse . En tant que femme noire, antillaise, vivant en France, je ne peux que me retrouver dans tes propos. Heureusement pour ma santĂ© mentale , j’ai acquis au fil des annĂ©es une totale capacitĂ© d’abstraction Ă  la mentalitĂ© française , son Ă©troitesse d’esprit , son hypocrisie et son ignorance de la diversitĂ©. J’ai fait de la culture et l’Ă©ducation un rempart contre la bĂŞtise ordinaire. Mais souvent , j’espère encore pouvoir un jour quitter la France car j’aimerais autre chose pour ma fille de 1 an. Un jour peut-ĂŞtre…
    En attendant, saches que tu es pour moi une rĂ©elle source d’inspiration. Tu es magnifique, brillante, lumineuse et tu feras très bientĂ´t une super maman ( FĂ©licitations d’ailleurs!).

    Je te souhaite la réussite que tu mérites dans toutes tes entreprises .

    Bien Ă  toi

  23. Reggie. June 27, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    Wow! This is touching. I’m glad you’re evolving and you’re stronger than all the bad talks and obstacles. I’m glad you’re here to gear others towards the part of self appreciation and development.
    Stories, we all got ’em… My experience was based on social stratification… Just know I’m on this journey growing with you.
    You’re made to inspire.
    Keep the fire blazing.
    P.S. Can I get to be a godmother to lil H?
    Love & Light.

  24. Carren Wallace-Brown July 20, 2016 at 1:06 pm

    Great story Freddie and very touching. I am excited read more from you.

  25. Roxane July 28, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    Freddie, I just read your post and some of the comments under it and I feel like: I’m not alone! so thank you to put words on it!! I’m a French young black woman and also a junior executive (you can imagine how some can be bothered about it! ;-)!! I’ve also been through some of the experiences you talk about in your video. I just have one question: do you feel less racism as a black woman in London?

    • Freddie August 1, 2016 at 10:53 am

      Hey Roxanne 🙂 I honestly feel like there is less everyday racism in London, maybe an English girl would tell you otherwise but comparing to Paris, it’s so different! Also, it might be because of my accent but I’m definitely considered French here, and it’s a relief because as you know, it’s not really granted to us in France. I have such a negative image of Paris now that I might be biased, but I genuinely think that London allowed me to bloom and grow beyond what Paris could have offered!

  26. Lori August 14, 2016 at 12:11 am

    Freddie! Hello! I found you through Instagram and I’m so grateful that I did! I am a writer. I recently wrote an article about how I am finally learning to embrace who I am even though I don’t always fit in everywhere I go. In America, I look very different than what many people here consider as beautiful. I am half Black, half Hispanic. I am a petite girl with brown skin, brown eyes and big brown curly hair. I am loving who I am now — or at least I thought I was. After I published my article on a website called “Medium,” I had a guy unfollow me and then remove me as a writer from his publication. I felt devastated. I believed that it was my article that maybe had turned him off or made him uncomfortable (he is white). I suddenly became scared and worried that my article may offend or make others uncomfortable, so I deleted it. But reading your post has given me a fresh perspective. Maybe I shouldn’t have deleted my article. Maybe I shouldn’t have been scared that I would make others uncomfortable with my talk about skin color and embracing who I am. My question for you is this: do you ever wonder if your words may turn others away? You seem so free in your post, and that freedom is beautiful! I wish I could have just an ounce of the freedom and confidence that you have! You are an incredible encouragement to me. Thank you for sharing your heart and your story. Blessings to you!

    • Freddie August 18, 2016 at 2:19 pm

      Lori!! Thanks for the comment! I’m not that free, trust me! It was hard to write this post but I don’t regret it and actually feel like I want to share more! But you can’t please everyone when you step in so much truth, talk about something fluffy and you’re safe. As soon as you go deeper, you take the risk to be criticised and I guess that’s not a bad thing, you’re not a jar of Nutella, you can’t please everyone. I definitely had some nasty comments because of this post, even last week I had this guy leaving 7 or 8 1-page long comments dissing me, telling me how much I hate myself and my black skin and deserved everything that happened to me. Why was he so nasty? Because I have a white husband. I had other people bullying me online after that went live for the same reason, and they were all black.
      My advice to you, don’t censor yourself! Because you’ll be the only one suffering from it. Whatever you say, you’ll find people who will relate (just like you did with this post) and people being against you (like these cyber bullies I came across).
      Oh and don’t get me started with white people getting uncomfortable when you talk about racism. Why do they take things so personally? I have no idea, but it definitely doesn’t mean that our stories should be unheard!

  27. Nana k August 16, 2016 at 2:45 am

    Thank you so much for sharing. You make me proud to be who I am. Go girl! You rock!

  28. Yolanda Johnson August 16, 2016 at 10:25 pm

    Hello Freddie,
    I just had to share this on my Facebook page. As a mother of four African-American 20-something daughters, it is wonderful for them to see that they are not alone with their insecurities as young womn and one day they will find their paths too! You are such a gem to come across. I look forward to seeing and hearing more.

  29. Noxy August 21, 2016 at 7:25 pm

    Freddie, reading this was inspiring and relatable. Thank you for sharing this, thank you. You just realise you’re not alone with your thoughts/experiences.

  30. Bunmi October 8, 2016 at 3:26 pm

    Freddie, I must say I’ve spent the past few hours taking in so much of what you have to share (because thi is what you do when you discover a treasure, you peruse it) :)… I’m am glad you shared this post and in every moment, although you might have been uncomfortable prior, I hope you remain in high spirit, with not a moment of insecurity about your posts. Some may say bad comments about it, but for every single life you’ve touched, you’ve attained success, peace and richness of the body, soul and spirit, for yourself and someone else.

  31. Aysha November 3, 2016 at 5:49 am

    Freddie,

    I found you on Instagram and I am so glad I have! I relate to this video is so many ways and am truly thankful for you for opening your soul and sharing your story. I love your blog and your honesty. You provide inspiration to women like me who are also on a journey of self discovery.

    Love,

    Aysha

  32. Cecile Adrian March 31, 2017 at 3:10 am

    Dear Freddie,

    I keep coming back to your ‘StyleLikeU’ video and I just recently read this blog post for the first time. I’m an 18-year-old white girl (young women?) trying to understand the world and all of its hypocrisy and injustice. I grew up in different places (Kenya, Ghana, Senegal Niger and the US), my mom is American and my dad is French. Growing up I always had a very happy and dream-like image of France. I want to say a huge THANK YOU. By putting yourself out there you have taught me about another side of France which white people in France hide and silence. Your perspective of France is much more real and you have taught more about France than I could have ever learned from my family members there. Right now I am writing a paper about racism in France through the lens of rap music. It is an assignment for a class I’m in but it is also part of a journey for myself to learn more about this country I am a citizen of. Reading the comments on this post, listening to French rap, watching your ‘StyleLikeU’ video all keep widening the narrow perspective I had.

    You are an inspiration on so many levels… I can’t even begin. THANK YOU (x10).

    — Cecile

    • Freddie April 28, 2017 at 1:15 pm

      m so please it resonated with you Cecile, and soo so flattered by your last words, I mean…THANKS!! France is a tricky one, I think immigration started a bit later there, and that’s one of the 99999999 problems this country has with integrating all its citiztens. In the meantime I’m happier abroad ahah Best of luck with your project, would love to have a look some day xx

  33. Achenyo June 3, 2017 at 10:17 am

    Amazing interview Freddie – you are inspiration, I cannot believe you went through all that you did and still came out so beautiful and open. Please continue of your journey of self-discovery and love, black is beautiful. You have inspired me to embrace my hair in a much bolder way, thank you!

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